How to do relative dating advice on dating someone with duaghter

30-Sep-2017 20:50

"I'm not interested in having more kids," says Carolanne, who has a 20-year-old son and a teenage daughter.

"If Duncan decides children are an absolute necessity, he has to make a decision.

Over and over again, I've interviewed people who kept lists of qualities they were looking for in a spouse—a Wall Street banker, a vegetarian, a skier, a poet, someone who recycles, someone who drives a Porsche, someone under 30—and then fell in love with a completely different type of person, someone much younger or older, say, than they pictured. When I was 25, I spent ten days in Rome doing things I had never done: staying in hotels that cost more than a night, eating pasta that wasn't Stouffer's. He wasn't a father figure—he was a grandfather figure.

I also met a man who quoted poetry and knew all about wine and astrology and Roman history and which fork to use when presented with several in a fancy restaurant. At the end of our weeklong romance, we exchanged addresses and phone numbers.

"The cultural norm prevented me from having any kind of relationship fantasy," she says.

"If the older woman has money, she's seen as pathetic because she's buying the attention of a younger man.

I waited longer than I have ever waited for any man to call me—I was in my 30s before I gave up hope, and only because I figured he was probably dead.

But what I learned was, you might think it's not possible to fall in love with someone 55 years older than you, but as with most things you think you can't possibly do—fly an airplane, learn Chinese, move to Paris alone—you actually can.

She could tell he was the kind of guy—and there aren't many at any age—who'd appreciate high-thread-count sheets woven at a monastery in India.

"What if I tell this guy I want to be more than friends and he says, 'Oh my God, you're like a mother to me'?